Death; and secrets left behind

My daughter died just three weeks ago, and since that time we have uncovered things that she was keeping to herself, but more importantly are the things she was not keeping.

Things that make that list;

She had no life insurance, no Will,  no power of attorney, so there is (uhh) that problem; we have no “legal” right to have custody of her child; our only grandchild, nor are we able to locate a birth certificate. (We do have have a social security card though, that’s a plus, right?) 

*just breathe, just breathe*

No tax records from last year, or any year, for that matter.  We are also stuck with her last payroll check, her bank (our bank) says they will not honor. First, the bank claims that she has never had an account, then they said her account was closed because she had overdrawn her account (there’s more to that story, I promise you). Which is it, no account or overdrawn account? ~but I digress 

*just breathe, just breathe*

Then there is a cell phone, we can not unlock, a facebook account we can not administer.

*just breathe, just breathe*

Please, for the sake of all that matters… please be prepared. If you’re young, write out a Will, make a power of attorney. Plan your estate. Be prepared. If you’re older, and you haven’t already done so, do the same. Don’t leave your estate in limbo, or worse; let the government determine who gets what. Even if you have nothing, who will take care of your final matters, without something in place.

This has been a wake up call even for my wife and I. We have so much left to do. We should not leave things undone.

Sure, the dead have no worries, but why make more stress for the living?

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… oh yeah, anyone willing to adopt any one my late daughters three cats?

Take care of what matters, or someone else will. 

Be prepared… and breathe, just breathe.