Mediation day came and went with a few hiccups. We didn’t stick to the plan we had laid out, but… it wasnt a total disaster either. We agreed on a few visitation days for him (supervised of course). *sigh*
What did we get? Hmmm, that’s a very good question. We have had physical custody, but now we actually have legal custody too (bout time, I’ve only been requesting some-thing since February). So I can finally get Kennedy medical insurance, through my employer. The father says he has the paperwork to do the same thing… funny thing is, he was (and still is) missing needed information to do that; middle name (yeah, his daughter and he doesn’t know it) actual birthdate (when asked, he only knew the month, not the day), and social security number (once only used for employment purposes, now it’s needed for almost everything – and no he didn’t/doesn’t know it). – Just for starters.
***Out of the loop and STILL out of his mind***
We don’t want to deny him his child, IF he can prove that he is mentally able to care for her, financially able (meaning he has stable employment *he’s had more jobs in three years, then then I have fingers) and can lay off the drug use. *he is an admitted drug abuser*
… He is also the one that ran from this state (another story for another time)
Court date has been set *again* because of the “mediation” demand (they do that in this state), the original date was pushed off till later. *I can hardly wait to get this “ball” further down the hill – it’s been too long now*
One final note, when people talk about custody battles, I see the majority as being between a husband and wife and the divorce that they have gone through. In our case it is between the grandparents (us) and the father after our daughter died.
Custody battles are not always about divorced parents, but some-times it’s about parents of the parents; about loving family members that care enough to step up and do what’s right for those that can’t do for themselves.