Category: One Life to Live

  • Death; and secrets left behind 

    My daughter died just three weeks ago, and since that time we have uncovered things that she was keeping to herself, but more importantly are the things she was not keeping. Things that make that list; She had no life insurance, no Will,  no power of attorney, so there is (uhh) that problem; we have…

  • Remembering my daughter ~ The Obituary

    Kimberlee J. Deinema Obituary MIDWAY – Kimberlee J. Deinema, 25, passed away on Tuesday, Jan. 24, 2017, at home. She lived in Midway the past four years and was a longtime resident of New Hampshire and Illinois. She worked at the 204 Animal Hospital. She was a unique and loving person with a compassion for…

  • Death came knocking 

    ​”THIS” is not my personal story but one that needs to be repeated. Sadly, it has now come to my family.  Heroin use and overdoses are skyrocketing. Deaths have tripled since 2010, a fact that can often be dismissed until there’s a face to this reality.  Actor Philip Seymour Hoffman’s death in 2014 put a…

  • BREATHE…  just breathe. (death knocks on my door) 

    BREATHE…  just breathe. (death knocks on my door) 

    Death came to my door recently. My eldest daughter, mistakenly let him in and he took her away from us. She was twenty-five. So young, so so young. 

  • For my Mother (16 August)

    If only my mother was still here. You see,  she died (on this day) a few years ago. I didn’t take the time to tell her how much I loved her. Now she is gone, and all the things I never told her, she will never know.

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  • Good lord it’s a fire (well… not yet)

    So, last night my 24 year old daughter has my wife and I watch her baby (my precious granddaughter) while she goes to her friends 21st birthday party.  My daughter meets them on River Street in Savannah to go “clubbing” I suppose. This morning we are still watching “the baby”… sigh. It seems that my…

  • And the world still turns….

    … But only for the living, I’m sorry to say. I started my life in a time where it was (relatively) safe. I could play outside, go door to door selling my school sponsored candy or gift wrap, go trick or treating, go to the lake by myself, ride my bicycle 5 miles to school…

  • Giftmas 2016

    Here at the Taylor House, we celebrate our version of Christmas (much like the traditional/commercialized one) in July. We don’t call it Christmas, but instead have renamed, it for our purposes, to Giftmas. Yes, we put up a tree, decorating it like everyone else. Yes, we put up a few outdoor lights, we are the…

  • Cats and chicken eggs don’t mix well

    Cats and chicken eggs don’t mix well – So sometime in the night this past evening, two cats belonging to my daughter decided to have a brawl on the kitchen counter. In the scuffle a basket of eggs (destined to be eaten) were instead laid to waste. The cats in question already have a limited…

  • My wife, the snake, and chicks, Oh my!

    Just had our first snake in the tub incident, just minutes ago (yep, it’s true), too. My wife acted pretty much like this, screaming her head off “there’s a snake in the tub, there’s a snake in the tub”. Me taking my time (because that’s what I do, Mr calm and collected) had to come…

  • Domestic abuse *update*

    Apparently, in Liberty county (perhaps the whole state) the definition of “abuse” is ONLY defined with violent behavior (as in physical) abuse, in mind. There are in fact different types of abuse, to include; sexual, physical verbal, emotional, academic,  and psychological Abuse. It’s a sad situation, when we tell my daughter what abuse is, AND…

  • *** Happy Happy ***

    Happy happy fifth Anniversary to Karen and her husband! Here’s to many many many more years together.

  • How mothers can support daughters coping with an abusive relationship

    How mothers can support daughters coping with an abusive relationship Are you a despairing mother whose daughter is in an abusive relationship and you’re at your wits end trying to work out how best to support her? Have you opened your home time and time again, then your daughter comes home and you and your…

  • Thief in the house

    Imagine you’re  a 13 year old girl in Middle School. Imagine you’re a 13 year old Autistic girl in Middle School. Did your perception change/shift the slightest bit? Now imagine struggling through all the social awkwardness of trying to make and keep friends, and no matter how nice you are, you’re always running into less…

  • Domestic Violence Emergency Checklist

    I hope my daughter will never need this information, but here it is, for her (and anyone else), just in case.

  • 16 Life Skills Every Kid Should Know Before Leaving Home | Kindred Spirit Mommy

    I’ve made a list here of life skills every kid should know by the time they’re ready to leave home. Don’t wait until your kid isn’t a kid anymore (18+) to go over these – do it while they’re young! Note:  You can find how-to videos on youtube for any of these. I suggest watching…

  • 10 things to tell my son before he is 16

    1- How to respect a car and fix a car before they get one.  They need to know that it is not a toy.  A car requires work to keep it looking nice. 2- Open a door for your mom, your sister and your date!  (And go out of your way to do it!)  3-…

  • 10 Things Every 20 Something Needs To Master Before They Turn 30

    1. Letting Go You’ll learn to move on from your past. Letting go is tough but spending so much time on something is also tough. There is only so much a person can do to make something better, if it doesn’t work move on. You will learn to have a limit on how much you…

  • How to identify an abuser

    Click the link to see the original blog – http://wp.me/p6DW2v-Aj No abuser looks like an abuser or they’d never find a victim to abuse. When you first get to know an abuser, he comes across as normal, average, like any other guy. He might be a laborer or a professional, young or old, tall or…

  • It didn’t start with hitting the dog

    Such is the life of the stray that found his way into my daughters life. I like that she has a soft spot for lost and abandoned animals, but sadly, her boyfriend doesn’t feel the same way. He was told that you must first “break” your new Pitt Bull by hitting it. **What the hell!**…

  • The police, the neighbors, and NOT me

    So our neighbors, the older couple across the street, have been paid a visit by not one, not two, but three police vehicles, one of which is a K9 unit. hmmm… But they never get into trouble. One officer even waited outside while the owners shoo’d their dobermans out into their enclosed front yard. Okay,…

  • Why doesn’t she leave?

    There are many reasons an abused wife might stay with her abuser. She’s afraid to leave but also afraid of life without him. She has no money, no friends, no family, no one to turn to, no place to run. She believes him when he says he’ll kill her. She believes him when he says…

  • Control…

    … is what he has over her. Sometimes using their baby, sometimes threats of harming himself. She loves him (only she knows why); could it be because of the little girl they have together? Over a year ago they came here, there was no baby then, and like usual, things were better. Sure, there was the…

  • Spring Extravaganza

    We don’t “do” the national holidays, not in our house. Oh don’t get me wrong we still celebrate something similar to Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter and the like, but we call them different names, celebrate them on different days and we do different things. Our “Easter” is as close to the first day of Spring that…

  • Threatening Words and Behavior is Verbal Abuse

    As you can guess, threatening words and behaviors imply or involve emotional pain, physical pain or both. If your partner threatens to leave if you do or don’t do something, that is a threat and verbal/emotional abuse. Some things you could hear are, “If you go out dressed like that I will play wing-man for my…

  • The plan was simple…

    … don’t write about any family matters. Well, so much for keeping my blog on the straight and narrow. This category has been created for me to rant, (or rave) about the goings on with the antics of family. I’ll try and keep it pleasant and civil, but at times that just may be impossible.…